Friday, October 31, 2008

Friday fill-in



1. My favorite food seasoning is Tony's!

2. The "Firefly" theme song is music to my ears. (I know this actually is music, but it is also a sound that brings me immediate joy, thus satisfying the intent of this fill-in.)

3. Lucky is as lucky does.

4. Pasta is something I take very seriously.

5. Many people is "elpoep ynaM" spelled backward.

6. A big pumpkin that broke the scale was the last thing I bought at the store.

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to trick-or-treating with a bunch of vampire unschoolers, tomorrow my plans include Christmas shopping at the Corvallis Fair Trade store and hanging out with a bunch of martini-plied unschoolers, and Sunday, I want to root for the Hawks with a bunch of happy-but-tired unschoolers!

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Things that make you go hmmm

Therapy plus Zoloft helps ease kids' anxiety

This article is about the results of a recently released study, and it's not a bad report on that. The writer did enough research to include this line:

"It's estimated that anxiety disorders affect as many as 20 percent of U.S. children and teens."

But s/he didn't ask why.

Why are so many of our kids are freaking out? Twenty percent is one in five, people! That's six kids in your average classroom who have a serious, incapacitating anxiety disorder.

But the drug companies are making a profit, so we're okay.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

I just lost the game

I do this every time I visit MJ's blog.

Thursday 13

A year ago this week, I posted my first Thursday 13. My faithful
readers will perhaps not be surprised to learn that this
is not my 52nd TT in that year—I think it's about #38—but I've
been reasonably faithful to the TT effort. In honor of that
"I'm doing it but I'm not religious about it" dedication,
here is this week's...



Thirteen Things I Did Instead of a TT in the Past Year

1. Went to Europe.


2. Got up in front of a crowd and quaked in my Crocs gave a speech.


3. Got up in front of a crowd and played an instrument.


4. Played weather girl for a couple of lunatics cool guys crossing the Gulf on a sailboat during hurricane season.


5. Played with Meah.


6. Sold my soul to corporate America Got a new job.


7. Watched four or five performances of "All's Well That Ends Well."


8. Led a couple drum circles.


9. Watched a lot (LOT) of Firefly.


10. Discovered how fun Guitar Hero is after a pitcher couple of strawberry margaritas (and that my wrist really doesn't care for Guitar Hero, no matter how much tequila I apply).


11. Went to Disneyland.


12. Had a big-ass Mardi Gras party.


13. Discovered that Blogging Without Obligation is harder than it seems.


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Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Something for Obama supporters

Check this out.

An intro to unschooling

This weekend, I answered an e-mail inquiry from a friend of a friend. She has a couple of small kids and is researching homeschooling. My reply ended up being pretty all encompassing, so I thought I'd put it here, too, as a resource.

(Full disclosure: This is, of course, slightly edited from the version I sent her, because I can never just hit Publish Post without rereading and editing.)


Let me start by saying that I envy you your chance to avoid sending your kids to school. Our daughters went to elementary school until the middle of their 4th and 3rd grade years. Chloe had a significantly awful 1st grade year, during which time she had suicidal thoughts and wrote about hating herself. But we got through it and her 2nd grade year was better, and they are both dream students from an academic perspective, so our overall feeling was that they were doing okay. We were pretty unimpressed, though. They were in Everett's gifted program and still we were going, "Is this it?"

Then Chloe started showing some early warning of being unhappy again, and I started looking into homeschooling. There was no way I was going to put her or us through that again. We thought initially that MJ would stay in school, because she is very social and was happy with her friends. But after they had both been home for more than a month due to a combination of chicken pox and winter break, MJ said she wanted to stay home, too. They've been home ever since, and we haven't regretted it for one moment.

Well, we are coming up on six years of homeschooling. The girls are 16 and 14. And do you know what? We are still seeing the effects of that time they spent in school. Chloe is an instinctive mathematician who before school used to beg us to give her story problems to do. Then came the awful day when she came home from school and announced that she hated math. She is only now getting over her resistance to "formal" math (as opposed to real life math, which she does all the time).

As you might imagine, my strongest advice to you as parents of young children is "Don't send your kids to school." Any school, public or private, can lead to the kind of damage we've seen in our kids. We thought trying school would be a harmless experiment, something we could change our minds about if needed, but we did lasting harm to our kids' curiosity and natural joy in learning.

My strongest advice to you as new homeschoolers is to take it slow. There are as many ways to homeschool as there are kids. You do not need to (and should not, IMO) re-create school in your home. That will just make you the perpetrators of the damage. Instead, take advantage of the amazing flexibility that homeschooling offers. Learning can happen by being out in the world, interacting with it and contributing to it, instead of only by sitting at a table with papers and books.

Next, open your mind to the possibility that all those experts running our schools don't know everything about how kids learn, and they certainly don't know about *your kids*. You are the expert there. You know best how to engage your kids, what will intrigue them, and how to make learning fun and rewarding for them.

You can start now. Notice what makes your kids' eyes light up with interest and enthusiasm. That is your best starting place: that spark. Chloe provided us with our first example of how that spark opens the door to learning. It began with her Harry Potter-inspired interest in magic. We brought home an Eyewitness Book (wonderful books!) about the history of witchcraft, which interestingly enough turned out to be the history of the world. We took her (our 7 year old!) to an exhibition of medieval torture devices, things used at one time to force people to confess to being witches. She started reading books on Wicca, and ended up building an altar with her dad, measuring and cutting and using tools.

Lately, she is passionate about manga and anime. This has led her to learn a surprising (to me) amount of Japanese, study mythology, take up drawing, write stories, and so much more.

For MJ, it has always been about multimedia. She has the most amazing collection of music on her iPod, encompassing a huge range of styles, periods, and countries. She writes beautifully and has two fantasy novels under her belt. She uses movies and television as a powerful learning tool (in the process teaching me that TV is not the evil I once thought it was). And she has an eye for image and design that has led her to become a truly wonderful photographer.

Through all of this, they have been free to be themselves without the pressures to conform and perform that their schooled friends are experiencing. And our freedom from the school schedule has allowed us to be together, take trips, and participate in our homeschooling community in ways that have enriched our lives beyond our wildest imaginings.

And do you know what? Our experience is typical of the people who homeschool the way we do. It is purely child-led, with the parents as partners and facilitators and playmates, and it works. Throw out everything you've been told about kids needing to be taught. It's not true. They want to learn, they are driven to learn and explore, and if you let them, they will open up the world to you like it hasn't been since you were toddlers yourselves.

Here are some resources for you to check out:

BOOKS
- Anything and everything by John Holt, but especially "How Children Learn" (http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=john+holt)

- Linda Dobson's "Homeschooling Book of Answers" (http://www.fun-books.com/authors/Linda_Dobson.htm) Good overview of a variety of homeschooling approaches. She is *not* related to James Dobson.

- Rue Kream's "Parenting a Free Child" (http://www.freechild.info/) I love, love, LOVE this book.

- Mary Griffith's "The Unschooling Handbook: How to use the whole world as your child's classroom" (http://www.amazon.com/Unschooling-Handbook-Whole-Childs-Classroom/dp/0761512764/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1224967760&sr=1-1)

- David and Micki Colfax's "Homeschooling for Excellence" (http://www.amazon.com/Homeschooling-Excellence-David-Colfax/dp/0446389862)

- Cafi Cohen's "And What About College?" (http://books.google.com/books?id=xyYSHgAACAAJ&dq=Cafi+Cohen&source=an&hl=en&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=4&ct=result)

- Grace Llewellyn's "Teenage Liberation Handbook: How to quit school and get a real life and education" (http://lowryhousepublishers.com/TeenageLiberationHandbook.htm) Not just for teens! Truly inspiring.

WEB SITES
- National Home Education Network http://www.nhen.org/
- Washington Homeschool Organization http://www.washhomeschool.org/
- Washington State's "Pink Book" - home ed regulations http://www.k12.wa.us/privateed/homebaseded/PinkBook/pinkbook.pdf
- Family Learning Organization http://www.familylearning.org/ Resources for meeting Washington's test and assessment requirements at home. We use the standardized test option because it's easy and my kids kind of enjoy it.
- Unschooling Pages http://www.sandradodd.com/unschooling Fabulous resource for the type of homeschooling we do.

MY BLOG
I've written a lot about our unschooling journey. These links will take you to most of it.
http://zombieprincess.blogspot.com/2008/05/thursday-13_15.html (Unschooling FAQ)http://zombieprincess.blogspot.com/search/label/unschooling
http://zombieprincess.blogspot.com/search/label/unschoolingtoday
http://zombieprincess.blogspot.com/search?q=socialization

CONFERENCES
Tooting my own horn a little because I'm speaking, but I strongly encourage you to come to the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference in Vancouver next May. It is SO fun, and you will get to see for yourself the bright minds and strong relationships that unschooling fosters.

http://www.lifeisgoodconference.com/

Good Vibrations in San Diego next September is another terrific option! We're hoping to go to that, too.

OTHER
There are more Yahoo groups on homeschooling than you can count. For unschoolers locally, Eastside Unschoolers is pretty active and not limited to the Eastside. Sandra has other unschooling lists linked on this page of her site:
http://sandradodd.com/lists/other

And this one is new but very active:
http://familyrun.ning.com/

Well, this is probably more than you were after, so I'll wind down now. Let me know if you have any questions. Good luck, and enjoy yourselves! Homeschooling is supposed to be fun!

Ronnie

Salacious but titter-free meme

Stolen from Frank.

Would you do meth if it were legalized?
Nope. I barely do caffeine.

Abortion: for or against?
This question pisses me off. OF COURSE I'm not for abortion. Nobody is.

I am for reducing the occurrence of abortion by providing people with safe, free birth control and the information that will help them use it correctly. I am for helping women who get pregnant unexpectedly to pursue the options that best suit their lifestyles and mental and physical health. I am for providing financial aid to women who get pregnant unexpectedly to enable them to keep their babies. And I am definitely for keeping the government out of my medical business.

I don't know many so-called pro-life activists who can say all of the same. Most of them want to sit on their moral high horse without actually addressing the problems that lie under our abortion statistics.

Would our country fall with a woman president?
No. How successful she would be depends on the woman, of course, and on the Congress sitting at the time, and on any number of other factors.

I think this question overestimates the importance of any given president.

Do you believe in the death penalty?
No. I understand the temptation of the death penalty, but I don't think there's any way to be sure we are performing executions justly and humanely.

Do you wish marijuana would be legalized already?
Yes. As long as alcohol is legal (and I'm not suggesting it shouldn't be), it is hypocritical in the extreme to prohibit just about any other substance.

Are you for or against premarital sex?
Silly question. Do I believe someone who engages in premarital sex is commiting a sin? No. Do I feel any guilt over the premarital sex I have engaged in? No. Do I think premarital sex is for everyone? No. I wouldn't marry someone I'd never slept with, but that's just me.

Do you believe in God?
No. But I will stand on a soapbox and defend your right to do so, up until the moment you want to legislate your particular theistic beliefs.

Do you think same sex marriage should be legalized?
Yes, of course. Love is love. I also think we don't have any authority to make it illegal.

Do you think it's wrong that so many Hispanics are moving to the USA?
Of course not. Was it wrong for my great-greats to move here? No. Do I think we have a resource problem because of the large numbers of people coming in? Of course.

Should the alcohol age be lowered to 18?
There shouldn't be an age restriction at all. I believe the age restriction creates most of the problems associated with teen drinking.

Should the war in Iraq be called off?
Yep.

Assisted suicide is illegal. Do you agree?
Do I agree that it is illegal? Not completely (see Frank's answer). Do I agree that it should be illegal? No.

Do you believe in spanking your children?
No. I don't believe in your spanking yours either.

Would you burn an American flag for a million dollars?
Probably. That's a lot of money. :-) But I'd be more likely to burn one to make a statement.

You want to claim this land as the land of the free? Then the symbol of your country can't just be a flag; the symbol also has to be one of its citizens exercising his right to burn that flag in protest. Show me that, defend that, celebrate that in your classrooms. Then you can stand up and sing about the "land of the free." — President Andrew Shepherd (Michael Douglas), "The American President"

Are you afraid others will judge you from reading some of your answers?
No. But I've closed comments because neither do I want to argue about any of this. If you disagree with me, you can do the meme on your own blog.

Passing political comment

Our new building has TVs in every coffee-break area, and ours is usually tuned to CNBC or MSNBC. A coworker and I walked by when an MSNBC talking head was discussing the possibility of having a Democrat in the White House and Democratic control of Congress. My coworker said something about the world going to Hell in a handbasket, and I demurred with a smiling "No, it's already there." He disagreed and said, "If we start taking money from productive members of society and give it to non-productive members, we're in trouble."

I avoid political discussions at work, so I let it go. But it's Really Bugging Me.

Obama's tax plan offers a tax credit to individuals making less than $200,000 and couples making less than $250,000 per year. This might come as a shock to a few Microsoft millionaires, but that's a lot of people. The independent Tax Policy Center says the plan will cut taxes for 81.3 percent of all households in 2009.

Only in some Republican fantasy world are people who make less than $200,000 per year non-productive members of society. We're talking about teachers, police officers, sales clerks, gas jockeys, small business owners, tech writers, and even many lawyers, doctors, politicians, and plumbers.

Sheesh.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Friday fill-in



1. Right now, I'm feeling tired (and my crunch time at work has barely started).

2. Exactly where I am is where I want to be. But...

3. How does one arrange emmigration to somewhere else if McCain wins?

4. Getting Things Done keeps me on track. (http://www.davidco.com/what_is_gtd.php)

5. Please don't color inside the lines. (Unless you want to, of course.)

6. My family fills me with joy. So does writing. And chocolate. And giving people presents.

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to that moment when I leave work knowing I have the whole weekend stretched out in front of me (even if I do need to work for part of it), tomorrow my plans include getting better acquainted with Din Simon and his favorite bartender, Jubilation McGee, who turned up in the story today, and Sunday, I want to cheer for the Hawks, win or lose!

There will probably be more, but my weekend is kind of formless as yet.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Second in a series of two...

...that was supposed to be more, but we kept chickening out.

Here is Chloe with a couple of Italian soldiers who were much more enthusiastic about having their photo taken than the Roman cop. This was at a rest stop on the way to Roma.

Foto dall'elicottero

At long last, photos from our helicopter tour of the Dolomites.

Ready for flight



Lift off!


Far horizons


Frosting


Look closely! (click to enlarge)


Nice digs


Patterns


Yes, we were that close


Is that you, God?


Back on the ground

A new interest I can get hugely behind

MJ made cupcakes today. From scratch. With from-scratch frosting and coconut.

May I just say:

Oh My God!!!!!!!!!!

They are so delicious.

See photos on MJ's 365

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Here we go again

Evidently I am addicted to comments. Even though it is after 2 a.m., 1 a.m., midnight, or 11 p.m. where most of my readers are, I am sitting here refreshing my blog like a desperate fool, hoping someone will comment on my TT. Whether you enable my "habit" or not is up to you.

In other news, I had a long and busy day at work today. I started the day visiting a perfectly lovely little gift shop in Mill Creek. They run our software and they like it, so they let us come and observe sometimes. Actually, I got to do more than observe. I probably can't put it on a resume, but I now have some experience ringing up sales and receiving inventory.

I also got some more experience as a customer and can now claim membership in that detestable group of people who start their Christmas shopping in October.

Nine hours later, I finished up my work day with an urgent request from my boss to write a too public e-mail about something I know very little about, with almost nobody left in the office to supply information. Not as fun as the morning.

In the middle there somewhere, I took a break from work to give myself a headstart on a modified NaNoWriMo attempt. (I'm going to write a little every day between now and November 30, but 5 minutes counts as much as 5 hours does.) Thanks to some writing prompts from Chloe, my story centers around one Din Simon who is looking for a key. He must do this while dealing with a cobra who has taken up residence in his bedroom, a persistent and perturbed jeweler who is making a second career out of turning up in Din's life at inconvenient moments, and the demands of his two ex-wives (who just happen to be twin sisters) and their lawyers.

As of now, I don't know what the key is for, where it went, or how any of the above came to pass.

Stay tuned...

Thursday 13

It's the Little Differences
Italia
1. This is a "Narrow Road" sign:


2. And this is a narrow road:


3. These are parking spaces:



4. Bathrooms are tiled floor to ceiling and bidets are standard equipment.

5. The drive-through at McDonald's is called the McDrive. I kid you not.

6. This is a high place for tourists to visit:


7. Graffiti is everywhere (and some of it is damned cool):


8. The doors are unique:


Ireland
9. The fish in Fish and Chips has skin. And sometimes tails.

10. This is a high place for tourists to visit:


11. Emos are gas stations (and they are frequented by tractors):


12. Sheep are everywhere (and some of them are damned cute, even if they do urinate while we're taking their picture):


13. The doors are unique:

Happy Thursday!


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Please join us in sending our very best wishes to Randi and Kauleen today!

Think babies!

Happy Birthday

Happy 37th Birthday to the Nature Conservancy!

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Waterford

The coolest part of our tour of the Waterford crystal factory: watching a couple of guys drip a handle onto a pitcher.

At the end of the tour, we watched a demonstration by one of their master cutters. He was a personable man in his 50s or 60s who showed us his stuff, chatted us up, and then asked if we had any questions. A woman asked if he gets a backache from standing at the cutting machine all day.

"I don't, no," he replied smoothly. "But I had a devil of a headache until about 10 this morning. That came from leaning up against the bar in the pub last night."

QE2

One fine day in Ireland, we drove down to County Cork to the town of Cobh (pronounced "cove"). Our purpose in going was to see the town that rescued the Lusitania survivors and waved good-bye to the Titanic. But we were in for a wonderful surprise! The Queen Elizabeth 2 came into port while we were there, and the entire population of tourists and residents came out to greet her. We all stood at the waterfront railings waving like fools and being waved at by the equally excited fools at the railings on deck.

"It's just a cruise ship!" MJ sneered.

Kids!

For me, it was eerie and inspiring. The QE2 is of the Cunard line, so there we were in a town which is effectively a cemetery and memorial for many of those who died on one of Cunard's most famous ships, watching a big giant humongous ship sail in that had "CUNARD" proudly painted on its side. It felt like we were jinxing the ship somehow, but as far as I know, she hasn't sunk between then and now.

I'll resist my newborn impulse to take a cruise and try to keep it that way. (Can't you just see the headlines? "Queen Elizabeth 2 sinks in hurricane Veronica")

In the meantime

MJ has posted some Europe photos on her 365 blog. Here are some blurbs to accompany them.

Ireland (Tip: right-click these links and then click Open in New Window)

Poulnabrone Dolmen, the Burren, County Clare - This is a grave in the Burren that predates the pyramids at Giza. It was pouring rain the day we explored the Burren, with a rather crisp wind tugging at our jackets and freezing our noses. For me, none of this detracted from the beauty of the place. It is rugged, dramatic, simultaneously lush and barren.

The Burren, County Clare - The crevices between these stepping stones go down at least a couple of feet. There's a whole world down there: grasses, ivy, flowers, spider webs, etc. Fascinating. Evidently this vegetation would overrun the stones if not for the steady cropping of the cattle in the area.

The beach at Dooega, Achill Island, County Mayo (3 photos) - The McManamans, half of Frank's half-Irish heritage, hail from this village on Achill (pronounced "ackle") Island. They were hardy stock, I think. It is a spectacularly beautiful place, with lush grazing lands, barren hills, towering cliffs, lovely beaches, and sweeping views of a few dotted islands in the huge Atlantic. But the settlements there reminded us so much of limpets, clinging to the island rather than really being settled on it.

There are sheep everywhere. In the fields, alongside the road, in the road, in the abandoned cabins. At one point, I got out of the car to run over the edge of a (seeming) cliff and down the hidden green slope beyond into definite sheep territory. They were unconcerned with my presence.

The roads on Achill are lined with the de rigeur hedges, but here the hedges are almost entirely made up of 8-foot tall fuscia bushes, which were all in bloom. Gorgeous!

Graveyard, Ardmore, County Waterford (2 photos) - One of many stunning grave markers. The second photo is the road outside the graveyard, with the gate we used to enter the grounds on the left.

Our Irish cows, Whitechurch, County Wexford - This is the field that we could see from the windows of our cottage. It was so quiet there, and so very dark at night. It provided just the peace and quiet we needed after our busy second week in Italia.

The cottage was kind of neat, kind of funky. It's an old converted granary, and our hosts, Patricia and Roger, and their family lived there first, so it was a project house, with a lot of the renovations done piecemeal. The attic room, where MJ slept, has two twin beds tucked under the sloped roof and a tiny little en suite bath. Our room was on the "first" floor (second floor to my fellow Americans), with a TV/sitting area, the big window where we could watch the cows and the sunset, and our mock-canopy bed. Everything else—entry, kitchen and family room, Chloe's tiny little single bedroom, and the main bath—is on the ground floor. The cottage has a separate driveway and parking lot, so we had nice separation from the main house and the other cottages; we didn't see other people unless we wanted to. You can see photos here and here.

One day, I took a walk down the road a ways. I took a random turn from narrow road to really narrow road, crested a hill, and encounted a cow. Somewhat concerned because all the other cows were behind fences, I wandered back to a nearby farm where the farmer was working on a piece of machinery that this city girl is helpless to identify. His dog saw me coming first, went gaga at the prospect of a visitor, and didn't even seem to mind that I couldn't pet him; he led me on down the road with great enthusiasm. "Excuse me," I said hesitantly to the farmer. "There's a cow loose on the road over there. Is that usual around here?" He smiled a little. "It's pretty usual," he said. "Sixteen of 'em went by a little bit ago." He did a quick headcount in his own field, just to be sure, but explained that one of his neighbors is not very careful about closing gates.

The Cliffs of Moher, County Clare - It's pronounced ma-her, in case you were wondering, not "more". Now you know.

The Burren again

Hook Head, Hook Peninsula, County Wexford (2 photos) - This was one of my favorite spots. There were gale force winds blowing, so we got tossed around in an exhilarating fashion as soon as we stepped out of the car. In fact, I found one place where the wind was sort of scooped by the terrain so it would hold me up when I leaned into it. Loved it!

I don't know why the second photo looks so calm. Don't let it fool you.

Tintern Abbey, Hook Peninsula, County Wexford - And cow.

Graveyard and St. Declan's Tower, Ardmore, County Waterford - Ardmore was on my must-see list because it is featured in one of Nora Roberts' Irish trilogies. This graveyard did not disappoint. Lovely, historic, mystical, chilly despite the sun. We expected to see Carrick, Prince of Faeries, appear at any moment. And it's on a hill with territorial views of the village, bay, and cliffs.

The headstones there are fascinating. Many of them include the name of the house where the deceased lived. One of the most ornate was a four-sided monument that had the man's name on one side and his two wives' (both of whom he survived) names each on another side. And we saw one stone for an IRA soldier who died in the troubles, circa 1921.

The adjacent church (not pictured) is roofless now but still interesting from an architectural perspective. For instance, there are some fascinating Romanesque carvings on one side: http://www.inmagine.com/dp034/dp1824984-photo But perhaps the most interesting thing is that the locals have begun burying their dead inside the church. Some of the graves are marked with huge horizontal slabs, including a couple that are placed in the center aisle to unfortunately resemble big lengths of sidewalk.

On the way to Ardmore, we toured through Dungarvan. This was on Chloe's must-see list. It is mentioned in the trilogy in a bit of fanciful local color ("the pub roof blew clear to Dungarvan"), and it caught her imagination. We actually found Dungarvan prettier in an overall sense than Ardmore. I could easily spend our next Irish trip "stationed" there.

Italia

Torbole, Lago di Garda - Shopping day!

The lakeside garden of that building I can't identify, Malcesine, Lago di Garda - Chloe

The lakehouse and views therefrom, Lago di Garda (4 photos) - Chloe again, the church, just one of many sailboats, the tiled roofs below us

Trento
Near their apartment - Chiara walking Cora

Downtown (2 photos) - Typically beautiful scenery

ItalFly hangar, Trento airport (2 photos) - Our helicopter waits. Just one of the many planes Frank lusted over inside.

A view from the helicopter - I have many more of these. It was so gorgeous up there!

The Roma and Venezia ones seem pretty self-explanatory.

Alternate ending

I've been thinking about that photo tag today and realized that there is an alternate ending available.

This is the 6th photo in the 6th folder if I count the subfolders in the tree:

It is Chiara in Venezia when she went there with friends for Carnivale, February 2005.

6th Photo Tag

Randi (who is my step-first cousin once removed) tagged me and gave me an excuse to (re)post this photo. It is the 6th photo in the 6th photo folder on my computer.



The story: This is in London on the banks of the Thames. We brought Chiara Crocs, too—bright orange ones—but she wasn't wearing them on this day. One day when we were walking around with our bright feet, Chiara overheard some Italians commenting in shocked tones about our footwear, with no idea that we had our very own interpreter.


Tagging someone in the photo is not a requirement of the game, but I tag Chloe nevertheless.

Enough to give our lawyers nightmares

The software I work on has a feature that lets store managers set up preset reasons for returns, such as "Damaged" or "Didn't Like". Well, I don't know what software they're using, but a store in Kansas City reached a new low when they came up with a reason of their own.

From the Zombie Princess "Stupidity Knows No Bounds" file

City of Joy

Click here to read about V-DAY's and UNICEF's efforts to stop the rape-as-WMD that's going on in the Congo. Ways you can help are listed at the bottom.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Cousins

This is from Wikipedia, posted here because I can never keep the rules straight.


Featured quote

Category: Movie
Source: Accepted

Spoiler Alert!
If you have not seen this movie, stop reading now and go immediately out and rent it!

The scene: Bartleby welcomes the students (in spite of himself)

The quote:

I know what it's like to be rejected. It sucks. Rejection blows. Being said no to. You know what, I'm sorry, you're just not quite good enough. You didn't have enough extracurriculars. You didn't play enough tennis. You didn't study hard enough for your scores. So you're not going to make it.

You know what? Screw that! Shouldn't we all have the chance to discover ourselves? Shouldn't we all have the chance to be said yes to?

At South Harmon, we say yes to you. We say yes to your hopes. We say yes to your dreams. We say yes to your flaws. So welcome. Grab a room, grab a friend, grab yourself, we don't give a shit. Welcome to South Harmon Institute of Technology!

What unschooling looked like today

MJ asked me to report on her "good day."

She was on MySpace in the morning, and then she watched an episode of Buffy with Chloe. After that, they went to get a Monster at Safeway and to visit Frankie Fingers at the piercing parlor. From there, they walked to my brother's to visit cousin Chelsea. They talked with her about her day, then the three of them walked back to our house. They hung out for a bit, then went back to Safeway for tortellini. Then Chelsea and MJ watched "Fight Club" while Chloe hung out with the neighbor kids. After the movie, Chelsea and MJ walked back to Chelsea's to hang out some more. They watched that show where "that dude Bear goes into, like, wild places and brings a cameraman and does crazy, survival-tactics shit. He was in the Everglades and he was catching catfish by, like, letting them bite his fingers, 'cause they just clamp on. And then he killed one with his knife and ate it raw. And he also found, like, two washed-up shrimp boats and a house that got tossed around by a storm." Then MJ got a ride home, where she hung out outside with Chloe and the neighbor kids for a long time.

When she came back in, she took down all the photos that had been her wallpaper in her room. (She hasn't yet decided what to replace them with. In the meantime, it's freaking me out. It looks like she's moving out or something.) She all the photos in a box and started decorating the box with cutouts from the many magazines that take up big chunks of our shelves. She kept doing that while she and I watched "Accepted."

What she says she learned about:
  • Economics
  • Favoritism (Frankie doesn't make MJ pay for replacement balls for her nose rings any more)
  • Social hierarchy in high schools
  • Psychology
  • Anarchy
  • Multiple personality disorder
  • Survival (At this point, she launched into a horrified description of how dude Bear peed on the catfish bites on his hand to sterilize them.)
  • Interior decoration
  • Arts and crafts
  • Alternative education

Friday, October 17, 2008

30 questions

I stole this from Frank.

1. Person with the same name as you?
A market research manager in Brasil. A lawyer in Frankfurt. A student at UC Santa Cruz. A nun in Philadelphia. A member of the New Jersey Ski Patrol. A 6-foot transgendered "Southern Gal" in North Carolina. A bronze-medalist Special Olympian in Canton.

Cool.

2. Where was your first kiss?
Very first: At the fence, in the shortcut from my street to his. We were 7, I think.
First French: In his sister's bedroom, with her looking on making gagging noises. I was 15 or 16, he was a year older.

3. Have you ever seriously vandalized someone else’s property?
Unless TP'ing counts (aka "rolling"), no.

4. Have you ever hit someone of the opposite sex?
I spanked a boy I babysat when I was a teenager. :-(

5. Have you ever sung in front of a large number of people?
Yes, in elementary school choir. And I did some rather inebriated karaoke with Frank and Chuck and Judy at Lori's wedding. I think. The details are fuzzy.

6. What’s the first thing you notice about the opposite sex?
Unless he's a total hunk, his eyes probably, or more specifically, the attitude his eyes convey.

7. What really turns you on?
Intelligence and humor. IOW, Frank.

8. What do you order at Starbucks?
Tall caramel Frappucino with extra caramel.

9. What is your biggest mistake?
Hmm. Probably beating myself up for choosing things that didn't measure up to other people's expectations of me.

10. Have you ever hurt yourself on purpose?
No.

11. Say something totally random about yourself.
I am really enjoying the fall colors this year.

12. Has anyone ever said you looked like a celebrity?
When I was in high school, Brooke Shields. And the girl in "My Girl" looks a lot like I did when I was a kid.

13. Do you still watch kiddy movies or TV shows?
Of course.

14. Did you have braces?
Yes.

15. Are you comfortable with your height?
Yes.

16. What is the most romantic thing someone of the opposite sex has done for you?
There've been some memorable gifts over the years, and quite a bit of HDS, of course, but I think the most romantic thing Frank has done is years and years of little things. Backrubs. Cooking. Dishes. Filling the gas tank in my commute car. He takes very good care of me.

17. When do you know it’s love?
There wasn't one particular moment. We just knew. We talked about getting married within a few weeks of our first date. And then there was another rosy period several years ago, when I really came to know this was it.

18. Do you speak any other languages?
Some rusty Spanish. Some beginning Italian. Pig Latin.

19. Have you ever been to a tanning salon?
Once to prep for a Caribbean trip in the Winter.

20. What magazines do you read?
I can't say I read any magazine with any discipline. But we get some. We cycle through subscriptions. We've done travel magazines, sailing magazines, National Geographic, Smithsonian, Tattoo, Spin, TV Guide, Cycle, and others. Right now, I think we only get Gourmet and Chloe's anime magazine. Oh, and I really love the one that the Nature Conservancy sends.

21. Have you ever ridden in a limo?
Yes. 1950s Rolls Royce to our wedding picnic. Big stretch to a girls' night with some Maier cousins. I think that's it.

22. Has anyone you were really close to passed away?
Yes. Both paternal grandparents, my maternal grandfather, my step-grandparents, some cousins, my Aunt Barbie.

23. Do you watch MTV?
No, it's not as fun as it used to be.

24. What’s something that really annoys you?
Want a list?

25. What’s something you really like?
Hanging out with unschoolers.

26. Do you like Michael Jackson?
Some of his music, yes.

27. Can you dance?
With great enthusiasm but not necessarily any skill.

28. What’s the latest you have ever stayed up?
More than 24 hours.

29. Have you ever been rushed by an ambulance into the emergency room?
No. But I rushed myself there for an asthma attack once.

30. Do you actually read these when other people fill them out?
Yes.

I can live with that

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Friday fill-in



1. Follow the joy!

2. Curiosity is something I always take with me on vacation.

3. To achieve your goals, you must act.

4. What I choose to tell you is something I'd like you to know about me.

5. I have a computer and I'm not afraid to use it.

6. Rootbeer floats.

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to being home, tomorrow my plans include a number of tasks from my sadly lengthy to-do list, and Sunday, I want to watch the Seahawks, give gifts to my nieces, and read!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

A few words from a hero

In the debate tonight, Senator McCain once again brought up remarks made by Representative John Lewis. Here's the full text of those remarks, from Politico:

As one who was a victim of violence and hate during the height of the Civil Rights Movement, I am deeply disturbed by the negative tone of the McCain-Palin campaign. What I am seeing reminds me too much of another destructive period in American history. Sen. McCain and Gov. Palin are sowing the seeds of hatred and division, and there is no need for this hostility in our political discourse.

During another period, in the not too distant past, there was a governor of the state of Alabama named George Wallace who also became a presidential candidate.

George Wallace never threw a bomb. He never fired a gun, but he created the climate and the conditions that encouraged vicious attacks against innocent Americans who were simply trying to exercise their constitutional rights. Because of this atmosphere of hate, four little girls were killed on Sunday morning when a church was bombed in Birmingham, Alabama.

As public figures with the power to influence and persuade, Sen. McCain and Gov. Palin are playing with fire, and if they are not careful, that fire will consume us all. They are playing a very dangerous game that disregards the value of the political process and cheapens our entire democracy. We can do better. The American people deserve better.

McCain's previously stated respect for Representative Lewis is apparently forgotten. Instead of examining these remarks for merit, instead of reading them as what they are—the plea of a man who was there in the thick of the Civil Rights Movement in Alabama when those little girls died, and who must feel a tremendous obligation to speak out if he sees similar circumstances forming—McCain has used them as an opportunity to further bash Obama!

Say what?!

Consider these earlier words from Rep. Lewis on the occasion of Obama's nomination:
If someone had told me this would be happening now, I would have told them they were crazy, out of their mind, they didn’t know what they were talking about... I just wish the others were around to see this day... To the people who were beaten, put in jail, were asked questions they could never answer to register to vote, it’s amazing.

That is the context of Lewis' remarks. He's not talking about some vague threat; he's talking about the reality that he lived for years—a reality that encompassed not only the deaths of those little girls but the assassinations of Evers, King, Kennedy, Kennedy, and too many others.

I think Barack Obama is in danger every single day, and I think the McCain-Palin campaign is inciting violence with their "terrorist" rhetoric. For someone—especially for an elected official—with John Lewis' background to let that crap slide would be unconscionable.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Gollum bailout

I know, I'm behind the times. But just in case anybody else was, um, phoning it in last month, check this out from the fertile minds over at the Daily Show.

http://crooksandliars.com/media/play/wmv/6539/23216

More on the theme:
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/10/11/opinion/11collins.html

Monday, October 13, 2008

Speaking of Twilight

The movie comes out just before (American) Thanksgiving. And the guy who plays Edward might actually be cute enough.

Look out the window... or not

Sometimes being an unschooling parent is hard.

When Frank and I travel, we have this just-shy-of-desperate need to be busy, see as much as possible, seize the day. MJ and Chloe don't share it. Their more usual daily activities remain a big part of their days when we are traveling, and they aren't afraid to (ahem) sacrifice some sightseeing time in favor of keeping up with the usual.

For example, they started reading the Twilight series while we were in Italy and found it quite compelling. So, one fine day, I had to leave them in the hotel room while Frank and I went to explore Venezia. THIS WAS VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME and I expect big, fat kudos for doing it.

Then there was the day in Dublin when they stayed in the B&B watching the first presidential debate while Frank and I went wandering down to Temple Bar and Grafton Street.

Then there was the day when MJ preferred sitting in the cottage alone with a book and a bad DVD to visiting the Waterford factory and the Dunbrody famine ship.

Then there was the day when Chloe was busy drawing and wouldn't get out of the car to explore the Burren.

I remember endless roadtrips when I was a kid when my boredom was addressed with the deathless advice, "Look out the window!" I tried to keep those moments in mind when the girls made these (ahem) bad choices, all the while hearing a little voice in my head chiming, "It's not at all the same thing!" But to them, it really is, even when what's out the window is one of the most famous sites in Europe.

And, hey, at least they are rarely bored.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Malcesine photos

The waterfront


Just our favorite car park, but this photo gives an idea of the drama of the shoreline all along the lake


My namesake ship. (Shonna, do you guys know what "siora" means? Or is it just a name?)


I actually don't know what this building is/was, but this is the ceiling in the interior...


...and this is in the lakefront garden outside.


Afternoon spritzes (a traditional, slightly bitter afternoon refreshment)

Lake house photos

The Inimitable Chiara


One of our lizard friends


Nighttime views


The Maiers do laundry the European way

Live and Learn photos

Yes, these are all the photos we took. What can I say, it was a busy weekend!

All photos by MJ.




This is a test

I love crossword puzzles. The challenge of finding answers is rewarding to me. I especially love crossword-puzzles-by-committee, where two or three or five brains are working together to fill in all those little blanks. Frank, on the other hand, hates crossword puzzles, by committee or otherwise, although he will occasionally let me pick his encyclopedia brain when I'm stumped.

I think we can all can accept the reality I've just described: I enjoy crossword puzzles, Frank does not. Who cares? After all, nobody's life depends on a crossword puzzle, so it doesn't really matter if either one of us ever completes one.

Replace "crossword puzzle" with "test," though, and "Frank" and "I" with the names of a couple of kids, and you get another reaction. Suddenly that paragraph up there is rife with problems. It's no longer a matter of personal preference but of weighty issues like "career" and "future" and "consequences." Even the fact that I like to collaborate (a skill that is highly valued by employers!) becomes a problem.

So, we conducted an interesting little experiment last summer. It was unintentional; we were just being good little compliant homeschoolers by completing our annual standardized tests.

(Background: Unschoolers are subject to the random homeschool laws of their particular state, which range from Texas' "do what you want" to New York's "tell us every last thing you are doing and it had better be good enough." Washington regulates homeschooling, but the requirements are pretty simple: (1) file an annual declaration of intent to homeschool, (2) keep attendance records, (3) cover each of the required subject-matter areas, and (4) test or obtain a teacher's assessment each year. The parents keep all records (including test or assessment results), there is no administrative review, and it's not a big deal to comply each year.)

Our daughters kind of enjoy taking the tests. We test at home, so it's relaxed and flexible. For us, the tests are a strewing device and nothing more. The girls are allowed to ask questions, look things up on the Internet, talk to each other, rest whenever they want, and so on. For those reasons, or maybe just because, they enjoy the challenge. When they stop enjoying it, they make pretty patterns with the remaining dots on their answer sheets and move on to other things.

With Chloe's school-induced hatred of math, there were a couple of years where her enjoyment of the Math Computation section ended after about 2 minutes. But this year, she found it fascinating. I think the rules for the section allowed her 35 minutes, but we spent an hour going through it together, working problems (she did her own) and talking about what they were testing for and why. She was having fun and would have kept going, but I encouraged her to stop since we were both getting tired and she had more than done her time. She made a pattern in the remaining dots (about a fourth of the section, I think) and called it a day.

Chloe's score on that section is three grade levels above where she's "supposed" to be.

So, what does this tell me about Chloe? Not a damned thing. But it tells me quite a bit about schooling and test results.

The suppositions about this test include:
1. The test asks questions that represent the key skills for the student's grade level.
2. If the student cannot answer enough questions correctly in the time allotted, he or she has not learned the key skills.

Right? We must assume those things are true. Otherwise, what is the point of the test?

But the only conclusion I can draw from those "facts" and the scores that schooled kids are achieving and that Chloe the unschooler achieved is this: Our schools are failing utterly to teach. What schooled kids can do on this math test in an unfriendly 35 minutes, after all those years of school, is comparable to what my third-grade dropout can do on this math test in a friendly hour.

So what exactly is Chloe supposed to have missed?

And, perhaps more interestingly, what have all those other kids missed by being in school?



What if...
  • our schools and our government cared more about learning than the proof of learning?
  • we stopped assuming there are key skills for any grade level?

  • we stopped assuming that all kids test equally well?

  • we stopped assuming that all people should work at the same pace?

  • we stopped assuming that the average result produced by a broken system is a standard to strive for?
Why is all of this so hard to imagine?

Friday, October 10, 2008

Hello, is there anybody in there?

People! I'm feeling lonely! Leave me a comment!

Friday fill-in



1. One of the best concerts I ever saw that I really didn't think I'd like was the Vibrations at LIFE is Good 2008, when they opened for Amy Steinberg. Okay, it wasn't that I didn't think I'd like it, but my expectations were pretty low. Kid group, ya know? But they were amazing and it was one of the best shows I've ever seen.

One of the best plays I ever saw that I really didn't think I'd like was "Hello, Dolly!" with Carol Channing in the lead role. She was probably about 70 at the time, but you couldn't tell by watching her. She poured joy and energy into her performance and received a whooping, cheering, grinning-like-fools standing ovation at the end.

One of the best movies I ever saw that I really didn't think I'd like was it's a three-way tie: Terminator, The Sixth Sense, and Raiders of the Lost Ark. (I know, I know.)

2. Fish tacos is a meal I recently ordered in an Irish pub that was delicious!

3. It's time for some peace and quiet.

4. LemonSoda is quite refreshing.

5. If I never hear the word Palin again, it'll be too soon.

6. To one side of the curving road was a 13th-century abbey, and on the other was a cow.

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to reading and sleeping off the jet lag, tomorrow my plans include reading, unpacking, doing laundry, and sleeping off the jet lag, and Sunday, I want to read, post some more Europe photos to my blog, and sleep off the jet lag!