Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Extra! Extra!

In this post, I labeled much of what we've been busy with the last few months as "extra," and I strongly implied that I have too much "extra" in my life. My Uncle Scott had this to say:

"Those aren't extras - that's your life. You wouldn't know what to do without all of those extras."

The first part of that thought had occurred to me as I was writing the post, but I went with it anyway because those activities feel like extra. I think this is mainly because our core lifestyle, the life the four of us have together, is so fun and rich and complete that I would be pretty damned content if that were all we had.

I am also kind of sensitive to outside input. Hmm, let's try that again: I am very sensitive to outside input. If I don't get lots of downtime, quiet spells with next-to-no outside input, I become anxious and depressed. And my mental state can turn on a dime. One minute, I'm "Yay! People! Let's party!" and the next, life sucks and I want to go home and I want to be alone and I cry and I snap at my family and even our core lifestyle seems terribly, ponderously difficult.

So, I try to find a balance. I love my friends and my extended family, I love spending time with them, and I receive SO much love and joy from them. Uncle Scott is right that I would be terribly sorry if I didn't have that. But my intention for 2010 is to remember to make the quiet times and our core lifestyle more of a priority.

2 comments:

Jinger said...

Exactly. We are hosting my family this weekend in celebration of my folks 80th birthdays and their 60th wedding anniversary. There will be 34 of us all staying out at the family compound (us, parents next door, sister across the road). While it will be very nice to see everyone and extra special for my folks...I am already anticipating my down time come Sunday afternoon.

Scott said...

Be careful what you wish for. I have way too much alone time and am now terribly uncomfortable in groups (even small family groups).