...was Ronnie getting pulled back into the quicksand that is judgmental parenting.
My niece: "Me and Sam went—"
Ronnie: "Who went?"
My niece: "Me and Sam."
Ronnie: "Sam and I?"
I even heard myself saying something about how I "had to" correct her on that one.
Oy vey.
And to complete the horror, I have no recollection of how she eventually finished the sentence. So, on top of being just plain rude, I obviously wasn't listening very well.
It's really easy to slide into this crap. It's much harder to make up for it when you come to your senses.
But I'm going to try. Here's a start: I'm sorry, Chelsea.
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Ah, acceptance, that is a tough one. I have the impulse every time to correct (and mine just started speaking really coherently). Luckily I convinced myself that for early language development modeling is the only thing I can do so I don't correct, I just ostentatiously (and futilely i might add) model language. ie "I hurted my leg." "Oh, you hurt your leg?" "Yes I hurted it" and so on. You're so way ahead of me with the apology -- and how do you deal with the constant use of "like" btw??
The "like" thing doesn't bother me much, so I tend to let it go. Every now and then when there's a pack of teens in close quarters, all the "likes" floating around get pretty hilarious, and I just have to laugh. I think they'll outgrow it. :-)
Your modeling sounds like reflective listening to me -- always a good thing, and effective for so much more than communicating good grammar.
It is tough but what can we do? Being home with the kids because of home educating makes us more aware of these things I think.
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It's the same in many applications. I used to have to review technical documents. I learned to read the entire document first - without a red pen in my hand. It is a hard habit to break. I tried to pass this bit of advice on to my students before I retired. I can only hope that they listened first.
Penelope Anne - Wow! Thanks!
Scott - You mean it's okay to read without editing? Man, why didn't I think of that? :-)
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